Suicide is complex and often the result of psychological pain, mental illness (such as depression), trauma, or life stressors. This is why timely, compassionate intervention can make a huge difference.
At The Passage, we see daily how vital strong networks of care are. Just as friends, family, and support systems can prevent someone from falling into homelessness, these same protective factors can also save lives when someone is at risk of suicide.
Below, Emma, a Resettlement Worker at The Passage, shares frontline insights on recognising suicidal thoughts and responding with care.
Recognising the warning signs of suicide
Behavioural changes
- Giving away possessions
- Saying goodbye to people
- Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities
- Increased use of drugs/alcohol
- Sudden calmness after depression (may signal a decision to attempt suicide)
Psychological signals
- Hopelessness
- Agitation or anxiety
- Feeling trapped
- Extreme mood swings
- Loss of purpose or identity
Verbal cues
- “I wish I were dead.”
- “You’d be better off without me.”
- “I can’t do this anymore.”
Situation triggers
- Recent loss (Job, relationship, loved one)
- Legal or financial trouble
- History of trauma or abuse
- Major illness or chronic pain
Remember: sometimes the signs are subtle. Trust your instincts. If you’re concerned, it’s always better to speak with compassion than to stay silent.
How to talk to someone you’re worried about
1. Prepare yourself mentally
- Stay calm and non judgemental.
- You don’t need to ‘fix’ them – just listen, and be patient.
2. Ask directly about suicide
Asking openly won’t “plant the idea.” In fact, it shows care and reduces stigma.
Try: “I’ve noticed you’ve been going through a tough time. I care about you. Are you thinking about suicide?”
Or: “Sometimes people in your situation feel hopeless. Are you thinking about ending your life?”
3. Listen and validate
Remind people you are here, and their feelings are valid. Avoid giving advice or minimising their pain.
Say: “That sounds really painful.” or “Thank you for telling me. I’m here with you.”
Avoid: “It’s not that bad.” or “Other people have it worse.” or “Just think positive.”
4. Keep them safe
If they’re at immediate risk:
- Do not leave them alone
- Remove means if possible (e.g. pills)
- Call or help: emergency services, crisis lines, or a mental health professional
Emergency help is vital if they have a plan, means, and intent to follow through.
5. Encourage and support help-seeking
Direct them towards:
- GP or therapist
- Crisis services
- Crisis Text Line: Text ‘Home’ to 74174
- Samaritans (UK): Call 116 123
- Trusted adult/family member
A conversation could change, or save a life
At The Passage, we know that both suicide and homelessness are rarely caused by a single factor. Instead, they are often the outcome of isolation, trauma, and a breakdown of support networks.
That’s why our work focuses not just on providing shelter, but also on helping people build strong, lasting connections. Just as a friend or family member might be the protective factor that keeps someone from sleeping rough, they can also be the lifeline that prevents suicide.
During Suicide Awareness Month, we encourage everyone to look out for those around them. A conversation can change – and even save – a life.